Living Together Before Marriage: What Does the Bible Really Say?
Living together before marriage goes against biblical teachings and can harm relationship success. Here's why cohabitation isn't recommended:
Biblical Perspective:
- Jesus calls followers to fully commit body and soul (Matthew 16:24)
- Our bodies are temples of the Holy Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)
- Sex is designed for marriage between man and woman (Genesis 2:24)
- Sexual activity outside marriage is considered sin (Ephesians 5:1-3)
Practical Reasons to Avoid Cohabitation:
- Research shows lower commitment levels
- 54% of cohabiting couples break up within 6 years
- Only 33% transition to marriage
- Higher divorce rates among couples who lived together first
- Creates "trial marriage" mindset instead of lasting commitment
Book cover: Growing Together
Steps for Couples Currently Cohabiting:
- Turn to Christ for forgiveness
- Make immediate living arrangements to separate
- Consider quick civil ceremony if planning marriage
- Seek support from church community
Alternative Options:
- Quick marriage now, formal ceremony later
- Separate living arrangements during engagement
- End relationship if partners disagree on biblical values
Remember: While cohabitation is culturally normal, following Christ often means making countercultural choices that honor God's design for relationships and marriage.
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