How to Build Genuine Friendships in College and Beyond

How to Build Genuine Friendships in College and Beyond

By Rev. Daniel Matthews, M.Div.

January 29, 2025 at 06:19 AM

Making friends in college requires intentional effort and strategic approaches. Here's how to build meaningful friendships:

Start with Faith-Based Connections

  • Join campus religious groups and Bible studies
  • Attend chapel services (if at a Christian college)
  • Pray for guidance in finding genuine friendships

Leverage Your Interests

  • Join clubs aligned with your major
  • Participate in hobby-based groups (sports, arts, music)
  • Connect with people who share your passions
  • Consider intramural sports or recreational activities

Take Initiative

  • Step out of your comfort zone
  • Accept invitations to social events
  • Attend campus activities and gatherings
  • Leave your dorm room regularly
  • Visit common spaces (library, gym, cafeteria)

Build Connections Strategically

  • Use existing networks (high school friends, family connections)
  • Participate in organized campus events
  • Follow campus communication channels for activities
  • Say yes to new opportunities

Develop Social Skills

  • Keep your head up and minimize screen time while walking
  • Practice active listening
  • Show genuine interest in others
  • Ask thoughtful questions
  • Be approachable and friendly
  • Take the initiative to reach out

Remember:

  • Building strong friendships takes time (50 hours for casual friends, 90 hours for good friends, 200 hours for best friends)
  • Quality friendships improve mental and physical health
  • Don't let fear of rejection prevent you from reaching out
  • Meaningful connections are worth the investment

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Strong friendships not only benefit your wellbeing but also align with our natural need for community and connection, especially important in today's increasingly isolated world.

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